Wake Up

As a Christian, the one thing I do every day is "Thank God"

 for waking me up, before my feet ever hit the floor in the morning.

Now if you don't believe in God that's your choice. But don't judge me and I promise to not judge you.

But

For those of you who are believers, make a point of letting Him know you are grateful for waking you up and watching over you as you slept the night before.

Devote some time to prayer and meditation daily.

You can pray in the shower, while working out and even in your car on the way to work instead of listening to the radio.

Make this something you do every day, because it doesn't matter what you may think, you didn't wake up on your own. God did it.

Let Him know you appreciate it.

You don't have to do some long eloquent prayer, 

just pray from your heart. 

You Are Not A Terrible Person

You may not the body of Taylor Swift, Beyonce' or  Jennifer Lopez 

but you are not a terrible person.

You may not have your face painted on canvas like the Mona Lisa

but you are not a terrible person.

You may have made some poor choices in your life, 

but you are not a terrible person.

You have to learn to accept and love yourself the way that God loves you.

None of us were put on this earth to be a clone of someone else...even identical twins are different in personality.

If you have wronged someone, go to them and ask them to forgive you then go and ask God to forgive you, but you have to also learn to forgive yourself.

You are not a terrible person.

You are a beautiful being having a human experience.

The "B" Word

Men, 

just because a woman is independent,

 opinionated and / or self assured 

does not mean you have the right to call her anything other than her name.

Ladies, 

 Stop calling yourself and other women 

the "B" word.
You are not a "B"; 

that is the term used to call a female dog, wolf, fox or otter.

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL !!!

Don't let anyone tell you anything different.

You Are The Father, Not The Sitter

Men, when you are alone with your children you are not "babysitting".

It's called parenting; spending quality time with them.  

         Babysitter : to take charge of a child while  the parents are temporarily away.

Father: 

a. A male person whose sperm unites with an egg, resulting in the conception of a child.

b. A man who adopts a child.

c. A man who raises a child.

 I know all men don't call it "babysitting"; But for those of you who do, it's time you stop.

Your children love you and most times they don't want to be with the babysitter.  :-)

~But~

 Even though some of you are calling it "babysitting",

I do love the fact that you are there for and with your child(ren).

I have much love and respect for you.

So with that said, there will be no more babysitting and more "quality time"

. :-)

Women Supporting Women

It really is sad that some women can't be supportive of one another or be  happy for the success of another "sister".

You don't know what that woman had to go through to get to where she is...

Once you realize that what God has for you... it's for you. It may take you some time to get it. But when you are "ready" and worthy of it, it will be released to you. 

Get Your Ring

Gen. 2:24

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

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O-kay ladies I'm talking to you now. 

I know some of you are going to be upset with me. But like I told you  on an earlier post

I only want to help you

I am not here to judge anyone.

If someone had told me a lot of the things that I write here, 

I may not have made some of the mistakes I did.

Now with that said....

Some women sell themselves short.

They don't think they deserve any more than what

they are receiving. But I am here to tell you  that is a lie.

Don't let a man "shack up" ( for those of you who don't know...it means live together) with you, 

without first making you his wife. You don't need to "try it" out to see if it's what you want.

If the man has to "try you out" before he makes you his wife. You more than likely are not going to be his wife.

My grandmother always told us that a man would not buy the cow that gave him the milk for free.

And let me tell you ...

You are no cow.
You are loved by God and He loves you more than any man ever could or would.

Don't let some man come into your life and drain you in more ways than one.

He is going to drain you of your youth, your pride, your self esteem, self respect, your spirit and  maybe even your dreams.

And it's going to take a while for you to recover.

Been there done it.

I am not saying all men are like this. 

But the right man is going to make you his wife instead if a "wifey"

Wife: a woman joined in marriage to a man; a woman considered in relation to her husband;spouse.

Wifey: a girl you care a lot about, she's more than just your girlfriend.


Just wait on him.
He's out there.
You just have to be patient.

Your Father

Being a "Facebook" member, I have noticed so many people posting scriptures from the Bible,

trying to encourage one another by telling them God will take care of them and etc.
 But when you look deeper into their pages. You will see some of those same people half naked...cursing one another out and really not living the life they are quoting in those scriptures

There was this one woman who posted that she "loves God with all her heart and soul but in the same sentence she said she would "F" a "MF" up if they crossed her...

She also listed some of the things hated and she listed her ex as the person she hated

and she hoped he burned in hell

It was obvious to me then that she didn't know God.

Because if she did, she would know that God is a loving God ....

If you think I am lying...Go and read it for for yourself in 1 John 4:7-8 and 1 John 4:20

(Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.)

(1 John 4:20) 

Obedience by Faith ] If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen?

I'm not going to sit here and act as if I am perfect. Because I am not. But I do confess to be a Christian. Being a christian means that I strive live the life that Christ lived when He was here. He came here ( in the flesh) to show us that it could be done.

We can live on this earth and serve God too.

But He knows that we are not perfect.

He knows that we will "mess up", fall into sin.

But we are not to do it  because it "feels good".

If we mess up, we are to get up, repent, walk the walk, talk the talk and live the life God wants us to live.

You cant do one without the other.

If you cant live the life, there is no need in acting or talking like you do.

Because all you are doing is fooling yourself.

For those of you who say that I dont know what I am talking about. I have an ex...a "baby daddy" as some of you would say.

I went through a phase of hating him, wanting him dead...

Oh I will be honest about it.

But that was before I knew God.

Now I pray for my children's father. I cant hate him, because he gave me some of the most precious gift a man can give a woman....my children.

I love him. But I am not in love with him.

And I pity him too, because he missed out on some of the most precious moments in his children's life by not being their for them. But that's something he is going to have to deal with.

I can't say I love God and have hate in my heart for another human being.

I wont lie and say it doesn't hurt when a person wrongs you...

but keep your faith in God and know that if you are truly a child of God, He is going to take care of His. Believe that.

He said in Exodus 23:22 ... I will be an enemy to your enemies and will oppose those who oppose you.

In short, He is saying, "I got your back..You don't have to worry about a thing"

When your Father is the King of all Kings... He has all the power.

What He tell's you will happen. May not happen when you want it to, but it will happen.

You don't have to do anything. Just take your burdens to your Father God, in Heaven.... Leave them with Him ( because He does not need your help in anything)

And He will work it out for you.

But make sure He is your father. If you aren't living a life pleasing to God, He is not your father, think I am lying. Check this out...1 John 3:9-10

Whoever has been born of God does not sin, for His seed remains in him; and he cannot sin, because he has been born of God.

In this the children of God and the children of the devil are manifest: Whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is he who does not love his brother.

Now go and think about some of the things that were said

You dont have to like it.

You don't even have to agree with me.

But just make sure you know who your Father is.

I Am Not A B*&%h

Society has somehow made it okay to call a woman a b**ch and / or a whore.
But I want you to know, IT IS NOT okay !

It's sad, because there are some women

who aren't offended by being called those names.

Well, YOU SHOULD BE.

Neither of those names are on my birth certificate . . .
And I am sure they aren't on yours either.

There is something wrong when a woman thinks it okay to be called a "whore" ( a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money; prostitute; harlot; strumpet. )
or a "b**ch" ( a female dog).
There is nothing cute nor funny about it.

One of the things I want from a man is

that he not call me any name he wouldn't call his mother .
And if he does call his mother that. . .
Well, I am "not" his mother.

My name is Rose.

Another name I don't want to be called, is the "N" word.

Yes, I am Black. African American.
but I AM NOT a N****

No matter how you spell it .

Ladies,

( and if there are any men reading this...you too),

it's time for us to take a stand.

We are beautiful beings that God created
and God does not make junk. So
LET"S STOP THE MADNESS !!!

If He Beats You, He Doesn't Love You

Ladies, I want to talk to you right now.

I am going to keep this short and to the point.
If a man hit’s you, he doesn’t love you…He want’s to control you.
LOVE DOES NOT PHYSICALLY HURTIf he hit’s you once, belive me when I tell you, there is a possibility he will hit you again…
DO NOT STAY IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP!!!
There are some signs you need to be aware of…

He’s extremely jealous.Constantly asks you where you are going, who you are going to be with.He insists that you spend all /most of your time with him,

He will isolate you from friends and family.

He will make all of “your” decisions.

He will tell you “what to” and “what not” to wear…
He will become angry when things don’t go his way.Blames others for his failures.Extremely moody, nice one minute angry the next.He’s extremely charming and an a smooth talker.

He may have also come from an abusive home.

Once this man starts beating you he will take your self esteem

and if you stay he may even take your life.

Don’t allow this man to isolate you from your family and friends.
He want’s total control of you. He can’t control you when other’s are around.
He has to break your spirit to control you.
He will tell you that you are worthless.
He will have you thinking that you are the one with the problem.
After he abuse’s you he might start to “romance” you…telling you that he is sorry and that he will never do it again. Thats a LIE.

You are NOT what he has been telling you that you are.

You are beautiful.
You can make it without him.
There are places out there that will help you.
There is also someone out there who will love you just the way you are.

If you are in an abusive relationship…it’s time to pack up and leave.
Even if you have to leave all of your material things behind….Leave!!!
Material things can be replaced…
Your life is more important.

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All Females Are Beautiful

We live in a society that wants us to believe that beauty is

 young, blonde, blue eyed and skinny.

And I am here to tell you that's a lie.

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.

Beauty isn't about appearance.

Beauty comes from within.

You are beautiful because God created you in His image. 

Everything about God is good.

Beyonce, Kim, Halle and Heidi are all beautiful in their own special way.

But I bet they don't see themselves the way the world does.

 The only difference between us and them is

they have "glam squads" to make them appear flawless.

You have to accept your own personal / inner beauty.

and let it shine...

It;s not about you appearance or size;

if you have a bad attitude...you are ugly.

and no one will put up with you for long.

Friends But Not Those Benefits

So you have settled for being friends "with benefits".

ARE YOU CRAZY!!!!

I'm sorry for being so blunt. But you are better than that.

I am going to keep telling you this until you realize it. 

You can get mad if you want to. 

I don't believe that both "friends" are being completely honest about their feelings.
Someone want's a relationship and are settling...hoping that things will change.

Don't fool yourself into thinking that this person will one day fall in love with you.
Especially if they have told you how things are going to be.

When I was growing up my friends and I had another name for this type relationship
 We called it "being
the night time whore". It is exactly what it sounds like. 
You can call it whatever you want to...
But it's the same thing.  

The person you are being with doesn't respect nor care enough for you
 to want to be in a relationship with you.
But will use your body to please themselves.

Why are you accepting this?
You can do better
and
You deserve better.

Money Is Not The Root Of Evil

This is something I just have to get off my chest.

Over the years, I have heard people say that

"money is the root of evil".

That's a lie 

The Word of God tells us...

1 Timothy 6:10

For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil,

 for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness,

and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.

You see the people who love money and material things 

will do almost anything to get it. And they don't care who

they have to hurt to get it.

Meaning they will lie, cheat, steal and /or kill to get it...

And they will never have enough.


God wants us to have nice things. He wants us to be successful.
But He also wants us to have a relationship with Him
If we were to seek after God like we did money
this world would be a better place.


Our seeking would bring forth His favor (even more)
God's favor is worth more than money.
Money can never produce the things that
 God's favor can give us.

Her Husband Is Not Your Man

“Thou shall not commit adultery.

Ladies, if you are dating someone who is married to someone else…that person is not “your man”, “your baby” nor “your boo”. That person is the HUSBAND of “the other woman”.

Let’s just keep it real. All you are to that man is “his side whore”. Let that sink in for a minute.

I know you want to stop reading this or curse me out. But please keep reading.

You are a beautiful woman who deserves better.

I don’t care what people have said about you in the past nor what they are saying now. God loves you but He hates the sin you are committing with this married man. And this is not what God wants for you.

This man was not sent to you by God. God would not “give” you a married man as the man for you. That would make Him a liar. And God does not lie. When He told us we would go to hell if we committed adultery and covet our neighbor… He meant it.

And you have also become a liar. God does not like a liar. In fact lying is an abomination to Him.

These six things the LORD hates,

Yes, seven are an abomination to Him:

A proud look,

A lying tongue,

Hands that shed innocent blood,

A heart that devises wicked plans,

Feet that are swift in running to evil,

A false witness who speaks lies,

And one who sows discord among brethren. ~Proverbs 6:16-19

You don’t think you are doing any of that? Let me show you that you are.

We have already talked about the adultery…Now we will talk about the coveting that you may not be aware of. You wrongfully want that woman’s husband without any regards to her feelings. You don’t care if you destroy her nor her family. It’s all about you. Just remember that what goes around comes back around.

You have become a liar, because you have to sneak around. You may even be lying to some of your friends and family about him. But more than anything you are lying to yourself.

He is not going to leave his wife for you and if by chance he does. Remember that if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you.

I want you to think of something else…

When this man gets what he wants from you, he goes home to his wife.

He has holidays with his wife and family. He might give you a few hours here and there. But in the end he is celebrating with his wife.

Vacations are spent with his wife. If he gives you a vacation, its only because he wants to keep you hanging on to stoke his ego.

If he dies today you will get nothing. You will get nothing.

I am going to tell you again. You are better than this.

God does want you to have that special man but it’s not this man. God wants you to be blessed with someone who will love you for you, someone who can give you all their time, love and devotion and someone who will serve Him with you.

But I really want you to read the Book of Ruth and the book of Esther to see how the Lord blessed them in the end…Neither of them cheated with someone else’s husband

Tell The Truth, Shame The Devil

I feel led to bring up an issue that some of you won’t like. But like I have told you before, If telling the truth is going to keep you out of Hell. I am serving my Father well

Some of you are "fathers" . . .

But how many of you are really there for your children?

Our fathers impact our lives in more ways then we can imagine.
Little boys try to walk and talk like their father.
Little girls look up to their daddies to love them.
It is said that the love a father shows his daughter
more than likely will reflect on the type of man she marries.

Now that’s something to think about . . .
I am not here to put down Fathers in any way. I thank God for the men who are there to support their children. And I am not talking just financially.
Children need more than financial support.
They need to know that they are loved and protected by both parents.
Not all of us have grown up in a Christian home. It’s unfortunate that many people have a hard time understanding the love of God, because their Father's were alcoholics, absent, or abusive.

Some actions are not that obvious . . . They can be controlling, unkind, always at work or they just don't care how they treat anyone.

How can a man tell you he is a "Christian" and that he loves God, whom he cannot see but have"living"children
Whom he shows no love or even cares to see?
"He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love." -1 John 4:8

Some of these men blame the mother as the reason they are not in the picture . . . It’s time to stop lying. If you were man enough to make a baby, Be man enough to take care of what you help create.

I can hear some of you ladies going Amen . . . But let me bust some bubbles here. Some of you are the reason a man won’t come around their children. You are screaming and hollering before the man can even say Hello to you or his child.
"A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards."-Proverbs 29:11

A few of you wont let the man see his child(ren) because he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

Some of you are even saying he can’t pick his child(ren) up because you can’t stand the new woman in his life.

Ladies,

If the father of your children has (re)married get to know the woman . . . You may like her.

No matter what you say she will be a part of your children lives.

So work on your relationship with him and her.

Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.-Proverbs 10:12

If you are screaming at the man before he enters the room. Yes, he is going to turn around and leave. Try sitting down with him and talking things out."She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness..." - Proverbs 31:26If you are using your children to get a man back . . .If you are using your children to get a man back . . .
Stop what you are doing . . . ,
Get on your knees and ask God to help you . . .
Not only are you making a fool of your self, You are hurting your children.And you are putting that man before God.

"Thou shalt have no other gods before me." Exodus 20:3

If that man is meant for you let God work it out.
In the meantime, work on your relationship with God. He will be there for you when no one else will.

There is something else I have to say to the men. And I am not talking about all of you men. But, you know who you are . . . Men, When you are alone with your children without the mother present.
You are NOT baby-sitting.
A baby-sitter is someone who watches a child in the absence
of the parent(s).
The time a parent is alone with his / her child is called "quality" time.

To the parents who have sons’ who aren’t taking care of their children.
Sit your son(s) down and talk to him.
Don’t uphold him in his mess.Your grandchild will be the one who suffers in the end."Train up a child in the way which he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it". ~Proverbs 22:6It’s our responsibility as Christians to "be love’. No, I didn’t mean "to be loved" . . .
I meant its time we start showing what love is.It’s our responsibility as Christians to "be love’. No, I didn’t mean "to be loved" . . .I meant its time we start showing what love is.

If you know a young person who needs an encouraging word . . . You be that word.
Let that child see the God in you.
Take the time to talk to one of your elderly neighbors.
Think about all the wisdom and knowledge they have to share.
See if the single parent down the street can use some of the stuff you are getting ready to put in a yard sale or trash because you think giving someone something will make them have more than you...None of us are perfect.
We have all made mistakes. But its time we start taking care of one another.
Especially one of His most precious gifts.
Our children