Appreciation

He's Not Your Man, That's Her Husband

This is to my sister's who are "dating" married men.

I know you are going to get man, but it has to be said.

That married man is not "your man"; 
he is someone else's husband.
I hate to say it, but you are the "chick on the side",
the "other woman", "the  side hoe".
I am so sorry for calling you those names, but those are some of the names that people call women who cheat with married men.

You are so much better than that and you deserve so much more than what you are getting.
You deserve a "single"man who will love you so much that he is willing to give his love  to you only.

This man whom you are with now stood before God and others and confessed his love to the woman he married.
You are not that woman.
You only get a small fraction of his life but he goes home to his wife every night.
On holiday's he is with his wife and family and you are alone...
When he is on family vacations, you aren't thought of. Don't be fooled into thinking that you are. If he  does calls you while he is away, it's only to make sure that you are on good terms for when he returns.

I know he promises to leave her and tells you that he only stays for his children.
Girl, don't believe that lie. That lie is older than you and it will still be around when you have left this world.

If he does leaves her for you, there is a possibility that he might do the same things to you. I can assure you that you won't trust one another. 
The way you get him, may be he same way you lose him.

His wife didn't do anything to you.
The only thing she did wrong was to put her trust and love into a man who didn't deserve it. He is a liar and a cheater... 
He is lying to her and cheating you out of someone better.

I know you love him, but love yourself more.
There are so many single men out there who would love to have you.
You just have to be patient and wait.

Your Business Has Become Our Business

I'm sure that I'm not the only one who thinks that when it comes to social media,  that some people tend to overshare. 
I will admit, that there was a time I overshared myself...
But when you know better you do better.

If you are one of those people who overshare. Don't get mad when someone forms an opinion about what you have shared  to the whole world. 
I am sure someone will have a negative opinion about this, but that's okay.


Let me give you some examples as to how we overshare:

Cute Kids 

There isn't anything wrong with posting your children pictures.
Most parent's are proud of their children accomplishments and the cute things that they do.

 But when you start posting the names of your children's schools, after school activities and new driver's license (with personal information on it), that's where it needs to end. Do these people not watch the news,  "Dateline" or the ID Channel?   They should be careful with the things that they post because everyone on your friends list isn't your friend and you don't know who is out their lurking around. 

 Food Porn

I have to say this..
  Some of the people posting pictures of the food that they have prepared need to STOP. 

No one wants to see dirty dishes in the background nor food hanging off a plate.
 I have also seen food I wasn't able to identify as food. Am I the only one seeing these type photo's?

Shiny and New

I'm truly happy for anyone who finally gets something that they have worked hard for.
But why do some people have to share this with everyone?
Is it because they want people to see what they were blessed with or is it a form of bragging? 

 You should never allow people to know everything that you have or don't have in your home. It's none of their business. Everyone isn't happy for you and you have criminals watching and waiting. 

Sick and Tired

That's one of those "Hmmm?" moment's. 

I mean you have people telling us that they aren't  feeling well, but they have enough strength to get online to let us know that they aren't feeling well. Some even take pictures to post so we can see how bad they feel / look.  I don't wish sickness on anyone. Instead of letting the world know how bad you are feeling, you should be somewhere resting and asking God to heal you.

 The "News" Person
The person who wants to be the first to report something hardly ever gets the information right. They just want to be the first to spread the bad news.
These people need to take in consideration that when they tell of someone's death online, that some of their family members may not have heard the news yet.
Then there are those who tells someone personal business without asking that person. Just because someone feels comfortable telling you something does not mean they want you to put it out there on social media.

"The Photographer"
Just because you take a picture of someone doesn't mean you have the right to post their image online. Ask that person first. They may not want to be on your social media page.

"Home" Alone

I know people are excited about going on vacations, to a new restaurant and etc.
But why would you tell someone that you are away from home?
Think about it, you have told "the thief" how far away you are from home.
He knows that your child just had a birthday party and that she has a new game console  with lots of money in her new piggy bank.
He also knows that you just purchased a new TV and Home Theater system and that your loving husband gave you that new laptop that you have been wanting for your anniversary.
He also knows the layout of your house.
He knows this because you posted it all on social media. 
Now have fun filling out that police report...

You Need Life Insurance

 A friend of mine and I were talking the other day about this subject...

This is a subject that no one wants to talk about but it has to be said.

If you don't have life insurance on yourself or your family member's, it's time you get some.

There are so many people who think that they have all the time in the world. But none of us know the exact day nor time we will leave this world.

If you don't get life insurance, your family will have the added burden of trying to gather up money to bury you.

That is so embarrassing. 

 It's bad enough that they will be grieving your death. 

Don't give them that added burden.

To the person who just said that you don't care because you'll be dead. I am going to pray for your mind. Because you should care that someone has to bear the burden of putting you away.  

If you are a young adult living on your own, it's time to invest in it...

Your rate will be cheaper.

and you don't know how your health will be when you are older; 

then it's going to cost you more. 

If you invest in it now, your family will have the means of giving you a proper funeral  and /or you will have the means of doing the same for a love ones. (I am talking to those of you with children)

If you are over 40, you should have done this a long time ago. But it's never too late (I don't guess).

We'll if you die before you get it, it's too late. I am sorry, I had to say it.

You might be saying, "I can not afford it."

But you could, if you were to do your own hair from time to time.

If you let go of some of those "name brand" clothes / bags that you like shopping for.

It's worth the investment. 

You may not reap the benefits of the money, but your family won't have to beg people to help them bury you...

It could also be the other way around, you may have to beg other's to help you bury a love one because you chose not to get life insurance for that person....

The one thing we are all going to do is leave this earth.

So go and invest in some life insurance now. It will be one of your best investments...

Love Your Husband

This will be short and sweet.

If you have a  problem with your husband (or wife)

Instead of telling  your friends and family members...

tell him (or her).

Because the person you are telling all of your business to

is going to tell someone else or they just

might be the one waiting to replace you.

You can get mad if you want 

But

I am just keeping it real....

The Bible tells us...

Genesis 2:24

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother

 and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

So the next time you want to bad mouth your husband

remember that you are also talking about yourself.

Because God has told us in His Word that you two are now one...

A Word To My Single Sister's

Nee Nee Leaks

Ladies, I am not trying to make any of you mad.

But it's time to "keep it real".

If you know a man is married, 

LEAVE HIM ALONE.

There are too many single men out there to be fooling around with another sister's

husband.

He stood before the world and God and made vows to "his wife".

Don't be the woman to cause pain to another woman and/or  his children.

A married man is NOT your man.

You deserve so much better.

 Don't let some man make you his "side whore".

I don't care what he tells you, he isn't leaving his wife for you and if he does,

remember

 the same way you got him will be the same way you lose him.

Then you will be the one feeling the pain you caused another woman.

It's time for us women to to stop hurting one another 

and start supporting each another

You Deserve Better...